BROKEN MARRIAGE

Getting married is not a one click decision. you have to think more than twice before getting into it. you also have to know your partner better. things he like or doesn't like, things will easily make him mad, sleeping habits and vice versa. this is not an easy road to take. marriage is a special contract of a permanent union between a couple. it is a huge commitment you can not easily get rid of if you don't want it anymore. you can not just promise something then afterwards forget about it. marriage is a wonderful sacrament of a Catholic Church,most unforgettable once in a life time experience and a desirable dream of every human being. Marrying someone you love more than anything is an unexplainable feeling, the most wonderful feeling you will ever feel. one of the happiest and luckiest moment of your life. But, what if after that wonderful feeling everything will just fall apart just because of the most common problem about TIME, SEX & MONEY?

One reason of a broken marriage is TIME, lack of time for the family. when a man is too busy working for the family, sometimes he forgets to spend time with the family because of a busy schedule. going to work without eating breakfast with them, then when he gets home watch news then eat dinner (sometimes it don't happen) then go to sleep he even forgets to chat with the kids, the worst thing with his wife. Then they will just get used to it because it happens every single day of their lives. According to my friend Arlene Ortega who is married with 5 children and undergoing this kind of process, lack of time weakens a strong feeling and relationship, although you already have children both have to go out and spend some time together once in a while. just like what they used to when they were still boy friend and girl friend. another example is when both of you have to work. most of the time the schedule is complicated you cant barely see your wife in a day. you are lucky if you are able to see her before she leaves.

Another reason is SEX, yes! sex life of a married couple. being busy with work, both of them don't prioritize it anymore. But, what about the sexual needs? you can not just do it all by yourself. people say that it is a part of a married life, others say it is an obligation to your partner. what if the other half can't even have a child of his own? this is one of the said reason why your partner commits infidelity . asking and getting what they need to the other woman or man in some scenario."third-party" almost 30% of the reason of a broken marriage. this reason connects about the problem regarding time.

The most and the major cause of a broken marriage is MONEY. less money? fight! fight! fight! more money? less fight. thats what people around me says. the reason of a never ending discussion between couples is financial problem. Nowadays it is the most common reason of a broken family. tuition fee, electricity bill, water bill, food allowance is a big hindrance to a good budgeting. not all the time the wife is good with this. if the money is not enough for the family they have to work hard to earn more.what will happen is you will loose time for your family then the next day no more SEX because you are too busy and then your money or your salary is not enough to feed your family. result?? never ending fight. worst........ break up which leads to separation.

Children is the one affected by all those problems i have mentioned. specially when they hear you fight. it will affect their mentality worst thing grow up and follow your footsteps or maybe become a drug addict or killer. the root? fighting parents.

Based on my research on www.squido.com saving the marriage is easy to do. one thing is leave you work in the office. don't bring it at home. spend time with the family on weekends, go out of town or even stay at home and watch movies with your kids. another thing is spend time with your wife ask her to go out just the two of you. refresh the love you have.... energize... make her feel how lucky you are she's your partner. talk to her or ask her to understand the situation you have about money, to help you out on spending wisely. schedule a lovely bonding of the whole family. listen not only to your wife but also with your kids opinion. that will help them to grow up as a good human being. make your partner fall in love with you everyday and don't forget to spend time with your partner alone in the bedroom it helps to keep the relationship going strong.

I'm not yet married. this is just my insight about a broken marriage that leads to broken family. i just want to share my thoughts and feelings about the certain scenario. i don't want to experience this problems when i get into the married life, although i know i cant run away with those problems but at least i know how to solve it or how to deal with those kinds of problems..

-CASB