Kuya jess

Whenever I want something I will just tell him. Whenever I feel lonely he makes me happy. Whenever I feel down and troubled he comforts me. He gives me all the answers the time I am asking a lot of questions. Whenever I feel happy I know he is the reason why. Whenever I have problems I know he is trying to say something. Trying to make me realize what I’ve done wrong.

It was late summer then I met a person who had been very special to me. She’s nice and smart. She has a beautiful smile and wonderful eyes. That time I was so confused of what I want in my life. But then she came. She made me happy, made me forget what is happening around me. She made me feel special all the time. Even just for a simple gesture she wants to make me feel important. When I ask for water she will easily get a glass for me, when I ask for a candy she will open it and make and hand it to me, if I would ask for a powder she will put some on my face without hesitations. That’s the reason why I fall for her. It may seem petty but I did fall for her.

Whenever we talk over the phone she keeps on telling stories about DAYS. Wondering what DAYS …is. Then she asked me if I would like to join an organization I asked her what kind of organization she told me it is a religious org. I was surprised she’s a member of such group, and then I just said yes. My 29 of year 2009 I joined the org. she was talking about. I found out it is DAYS WITH THE LORD. I felt weird when I met the members, they don’t seem religious people. But when I finally experience what I have experienced with them I can’t explain the feeling. I felt high about Gods grace. I felt so blessed because I am one of those lucky people to experience HIS grace. Oh I just love kuya jess.
After the best experience of my life, I get to know him better. I learned that I shouldn’t be calling Him only if I need him. thank him every day because he gave you life. problems is a part of everybody's life. it is just a TEST on how you will handle life.

joining the group makes sense in my life, like they say "it is a decision you will never regret, an experience you will never forget." i know God will never leave me whenever i need him. he will never refuse, if i ask something from him.i know he will give the BEST for me. he gave me the BEST parent who love me so much more than anything. my brothers and sisters whos always there to support. and my loving friends.. true friends. and those people i know who loves me. people i can trust.

BROKEN MARRIAGE

Getting married is not a one click decision. you have to think more than twice before getting into it. you also have to know your partner better. things he like or doesn't like, things will easily make him mad, sleeping habits and vice versa. this is not an easy road to take. marriage is a special contract of a permanent union between a couple. it is a huge commitment you can not easily get rid of if you don't want it anymore. you can not just promise something then afterwards forget about it. marriage is a wonderful sacrament of a Catholic Church,most unforgettable once in a life time experience and a desirable dream of every human being. Marrying someone you love more than anything is an unexplainable feeling, the most wonderful feeling you will ever feel. one of the happiest and luckiest moment of your life. But, what if after that wonderful feeling everything will just fall apart just because of the most common problem about TIME, SEX & MONEY?

One reason of a broken marriage is TIME, lack of time for the family. when a man is too busy working for the family, sometimes he forgets to spend time with the family because of a busy schedule. going to work without eating breakfast with them, then when he gets home watch news then eat dinner (sometimes it don't happen) then go to sleep he even forgets to chat with the kids, the worst thing with his wife. Then they will just get used to it because it happens every single day of their lives. According to my friend Arlene Ortega who is married with 5 children and undergoing this kind of process, lack of time weakens a strong feeling and relationship, although you already have children both have to go out and spend some time together once in a while. just like what they used to when they were still boy friend and girl friend. another example is when both of you have to work. most of the time the schedule is complicated you cant barely see your wife in a day. you are lucky if you are able to see her before she leaves.

Another reason is SEX, yes! sex life of a married couple. being busy with work, both of them don't prioritize it anymore. But, what about the sexual needs? you can not just do it all by yourself. people say that it is a part of a married life, others say it is an obligation to your partner. what if the other half can't even have a child of his own? this is one of the said reason why your partner commits infidelity . asking and getting what they need to the other woman or man in some scenario."third-party" almost 30% of the reason of a broken marriage. this reason connects about the problem regarding time.

The most and the major cause of a broken marriage is MONEY. less money? fight! fight! fight! more money? less fight. thats what people around me says. the reason of a never ending discussion between couples is financial problem. Nowadays it is the most common reason of a broken family. tuition fee, electricity bill, water bill, food allowance is a big hindrance to a good budgeting. not all the time the wife is good with this. if the money is not enough for the family they have to work hard to earn more.what will happen is you will loose time for your family then the next day no more SEX because you are too busy and then your money or your salary is not enough to feed your family. result?? never ending fight. worst........ break up which leads to separation.

Children is the one affected by all those problems i have mentioned. specially when they hear you fight. it will affect their mentality worst thing grow up and follow your footsteps or maybe become a drug addict or killer. the root? fighting parents.

Based on my research on www.squido.com saving the marriage is easy to do. one thing is leave you work in the office. don't bring it at home. spend time with the family on weekends, go out of town or even stay at home and watch movies with your kids. another thing is spend time with your wife ask her to go out just the two of you. refresh the love you have.... energize... make her feel how lucky you are she's your partner. talk to her or ask her to understand the situation you have about money, to help you out on spending wisely. schedule a lovely bonding of the whole family. listen not only to your wife but also with your kids opinion. that will help them to grow up as a good human being. make your partner fall in love with you everyday and don't forget to spend time with your partner alone in the bedroom it helps to keep the relationship going strong.

I'm not yet married. this is just my insight about a broken marriage that leads to broken family. i just want to share my thoughts and feelings about the certain scenario. i don't want to experience this problems when i get into the married life, although i know i cant run away with those problems but at least i know how to solve it or how to deal with those kinds of problems..

-CASB